Dad in charge
Today was my nephew's confirmation. Only grandparents and sponsors were attending the ceremony as it included 300 or so children. Afterwards my BIL and SIL hosted a celebration picnic in the park near their house. Having an older nephew my family, children included, remembered how it was to go. Park fun, no bathroom nearby not so fun. The biggest difference this time was that I ended up not attending, that is Eva and I. Dad was in charge of the big 3 at a function where adults eat and chat, kids play. Hmmmm anyone else hear the foreshadowing?
Dad's typically are not the same as mom's. Mom's teach and nurture dad's brush off and toughen up. I am a fan of tough love and work it out on your own now that the kids are bigger. In conflict resolution some extra talking between each party should also occur including coaching at times too, but the event started off at a terrible disadvantage for the kids. #2 spent the night at a friends house and was only picked up on the way to the party. We all can assume a lack of sleep was on her side. Next #3 hadn't had a nap since Wed at preschool because niece and nephew were on Spring Break and therefore were at our house every day. We visited the Magic House, and a long bike ride to a park the previous 2 days as well. Not only that but he spent the night at cousin's house too. Of course also go to bed late and getting up his usual way to early time. Yep, #1 seems to be at the best compared to others. And well most of you know #1 can be iffy in large groups.....Score so far Daddy 0 kids -3
Since I was not present I can only relay the events as they were described. All went well, the scooters I suggested bringing were a hit except 2 scooters 3 kids, and a few others who did not bring theirs was a challenge to manage. Grazing on snacks and soda left for several bathroom runs for Uncle. But the icing on the cake was the love hate #1 and #3. At some point #1 complains about #3 throwing rocks. Daddy being the Dad he is gives it my current approach, play somewhere else and ignore him working on dealing with it on his own. This would have been fine EXCEPT as #1 walked away my husband being my husband made a sarcastic remark to what he thought was only those nearby. His words were something to the fact of.." Or you could hold him down in the rocks to show him whose boss."
Yep, you guessed it my oldest son not normally prone to violence except when it comes to his little brother did just that. Moments later a person sitting on the sidelines says look at your son. #1 was in fact holding his brother's face in the rocks. The crowd then razzed him as to whatcha gonna do now mentality. I didn't hear the factual what did you do account as of yet. I do know he recognized his fault in the behavior. Tomorrow when Daddy is at the fire station once again I'm pretty sure it will all come out. Dad's beware, Mom will find out!!
To Be Continued;)
Dad's typically are not the same as mom's. Mom's teach and nurture dad's brush off and toughen up. I am a fan of tough love and work it out on your own now that the kids are bigger. In conflict resolution some extra talking between each party should also occur including coaching at times too, but the event started off at a terrible disadvantage for the kids. #2 spent the night at a friends house and was only picked up on the way to the party. We all can assume a lack of sleep was on her side. Next #3 hadn't had a nap since Wed at preschool because niece and nephew were on Spring Break and therefore were at our house every day. We visited the Magic House, and a long bike ride to a park the previous 2 days as well. Not only that but he spent the night at cousin's house too. Of course also go to bed late and getting up his usual way to early time. Yep, #1 seems to be at the best compared to others. And well most of you know #1 can be iffy in large groups.....Score so far Daddy 0 kids -3
Since I was not present I can only relay the events as they were described. All went well, the scooters I suggested bringing were a hit except 2 scooters 3 kids, and a few others who did not bring theirs was a challenge to manage. Grazing on snacks and soda left for several bathroom runs for Uncle. But the icing on the cake was the love hate #1 and #3. At some point #1 complains about #3 throwing rocks. Daddy being the Dad he is gives it my current approach, play somewhere else and ignore him working on dealing with it on his own. This would have been fine EXCEPT as #1 walked away my husband being my husband made a sarcastic remark to what he thought was only those nearby. His words were something to the fact of.." Or you could hold him down in the rocks to show him whose boss."
Yep, you guessed it my oldest son not normally prone to violence except when it comes to his little brother did just that. Moments later a person sitting on the sidelines says look at your son. #1 was in fact holding his brother's face in the rocks. The crowd then razzed him as to whatcha gonna do now mentality. I didn't hear the factual what did you do account as of yet. I do know he recognized his fault in the behavior. Tomorrow when Daddy is at the fire station once again I'm pretty sure it will all come out. Dad's beware, Mom will find out!!
To Be Continued;)
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