How do you....

Today I attended a leadership conference for Pastor and the like at my church. It felt really good to be invited and valued at my contributions within the children's ministry where I was officially asked to take over the preschool curriculum. They even had the women eat lunch in one beautifully decorated room while the men sat at tables in the foyer and did whatever it is men do while eating.
Great food, excellent teachings, fellowship and a few other unexpected opportunities wrapped up the non kid day. THEN I rushed  headed home to put together dinner that can travel for 4 kids, wake up and dress a sleeping toddler and drive to dance/Tae Kwon Do. Once there I dealt with a little girl who normally loves to dance midway through her 2nd class refuse, watch another 2 classes and then head out with the youngest two. We dropped of paper recycling, deposited checks in the ATM, ran into Walmart for a few necessities and returned/checked out library books. As I made my way back to retrieve the older 2 children from their activities I struggled with not snapping at them. I then had to force myself to not be resentful of my husband enjoying a peaceful night with no kids at home each Tuesday while I do this. I had to tell my brain it is the little things that count and what would I say to them if they had my tone? I had to remind myself of all the things that resounded from today's conference.
How does one transition from dealing with adults to dealing with kids? How can I die to self at a moments notice? I want to be an intentional parent and not waste these in between times because they scream loudly in memories of all children. What will they remember? Sure humanity is ok but at what point is it human and another habit?
Anyway, just my Tuesday thoughts. Anyone have any feedback to share? Really more than one can respond nudge nudge, he he :)

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