adolesence is precarious
Ah yes, Dr. Dobson enlightened me let me tell you when he explained about the hormones and their effect on girls/boys brains during this trying time for kids. I think the part that sums it all up most is that they will turn on a dime. They are responsible and grown up but all of a sudden it is as if they reverted to years younger and throw a fit, or just act clueless only to turn it back on again and be their age.
I recognize this in my oldest so often lately. He seems to get it, I mean really get that attitude counts and he has to be aware of others and surroundings. But then BAM he smacks his brother or breaks something and I blow up. Well, yeah no use in sugar coating it. The toddler like meltdown of him and his 7 year old sibling and/or 3 year old sister usually puts me over the edge too. I get too stern and lose my patience. But as I am pushing them to work on these things I am too. I force myself to snap out of it and apologize praying that my humanity speaks to theirs and we learn from each other. But MAN these times are so darn hard. I should hold on for the straight away when he is impressive and grown up assuming the opposite is just around the corner in order to remain calm but just haven't figured out that number yet.
Perfect example: Today #1 had to have an abscessed tooth removed. There is in fact no permanent tooth under it or its counter part on the other side of the mouth so he hears imperfection. He dwells on that and I can't shake him. Once at home siblings squabble I redirect mostly calmly and then during devotions he appears "get it" when we read Ephesians 6:11 Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. Schemes I explained was his distraction of thoughts and wrong ideas which rang a bell in his head. He asked questions and I pounced on the teachable moment explaining the thought of braces being solely terribly because people will make fun of him. I quote, "another reason they will make fun of me." He got it, he added his spin and I visibly saw the light bulb click. Eureka! Not only that but he asked how he could help when shooing all to bed, he asked permission to check one thing and then put it away on his own. He came to say goodnight to his littlest sister playing with her and snuggling while we sang Hush little Evangelene. Man when this kid gets it he wows me completely.
This makes me so proud, so in awe that I forget to enjoy it and hold on until it pops back again. I know he has it in him, the seed is spouting but well there is tons of time for watering and weeding out all the other influences in between. Tonight my prayer is for the in between, that I can step back and see opportunity not negative myself. How can I expect him to do something I am not demonstrating most of the time? Man this year should have a word of prosperity and patience, real patience not superficial but deep as the depths of my soul. After all why am I waiting on tomorrow? My current Favorite song!
Just in case you don't actually listen to the song here's the words:
Waiting For Tomorrow"
Maybe tomorrow we'll start over
Maybe tomorrow I will finally change my ways
Said the same things yesterday
Don't know why I'm so afraid
To let you in
To let you win
To let you have all of me
Can't spend my whole life wastin'
Everything I know I've been given
'Cause you've made for so much more than
Sittin' on the side lines
I don't wanna look back and wonder
If good enough could've been better
Everyday's a day to start over
So, why am I waiting for tomorrow
Maybe today I'll start believing
That you're mercy is really
As real as you say it is
It doesn't matter who I used to be
It only matters that I've been set free
You rescued me you're changing me
Jesus take everything
Can't spend my whole life wastin'
Everything I know I've been given
'Cause you've made for so much more than
Sittin' on the side lines
I don't wanna look back and wonder
If good enough could've been better
Everyday's a day to start over
So, why am I waiting for tomorrow
Oh, I'm makin this my moment now
To grab the hand that's reachin down to save me You saved me
And I'm makin this my moment now
To grab the hand that's reachin down to save me You saved me
Can't spend my whole life wastin'
Everything I know I've been given
'Cause you've made for so much more than
Sittin' on the side lines
I don't wanna look back and wonder
If good enough could've been better
Everyday's a day to start over
So, why am I waiting for tomorrow
I recognize this in my oldest so often lately. He seems to get it, I mean really get that attitude counts and he has to be aware of others and surroundings. But then BAM he smacks his brother or breaks something and I blow up. Well, yeah no use in sugar coating it. The toddler like meltdown of him and his 7 year old sibling and/or 3 year old sister usually puts me over the edge too. I get too stern and lose my patience. But as I am pushing them to work on these things I am too. I force myself to snap out of it and apologize praying that my humanity speaks to theirs and we learn from each other. But MAN these times are so darn hard. I should hold on for the straight away when he is impressive and grown up assuming the opposite is just around the corner in order to remain calm but just haven't figured out that number yet.
Perfect example: Today #1 had to have an abscessed tooth removed. There is in fact no permanent tooth under it or its counter part on the other side of the mouth so he hears imperfection. He dwells on that and I can't shake him. Once at home siblings squabble I redirect mostly calmly and then during devotions he appears "get it" when we read Ephesians 6:11 Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. Schemes I explained was his distraction of thoughts and wrong ideas which rang a bell in his head. He asked questions and I pounced on the teachable moment explaining the thought of braces being solely terribly because people will make fun of him. I quote, "another reason they will make fun of me." He got it, he added his spin and I visibly saw the light bulb click. Eureka! Not only that but he asked how he could help when shooing all to bed, he asked permission to check one thing and then put it away on his own. He came to say goodnight to his littlest sister playing with her and snuggling while we sang Hush little Evangelene. Man when this kid gets it he wows me completely.
This makes me so proud, so in awe that I forget to enjoy it and hold on until it pops back again. I know he has it in him, the seed is spouting but well there is tons of time for watering and weeding out all the other influences in between. Tonight my prayer is for the in between, that I can step back and see opportunity not negative myself. How can I expect him to do something I am not demonstrating most of the time? Man this year should have a word of prosperity and patience, real patience not superficial but deep as the depths of my soul. After all why am I waiting on tomorrow? My current Favorite song!
Just in case you don't actually listen to the song here's the words:
Waiting For Tomorrow"
Maybe tomorrow we'll start over
Maybe tomorrow I will finally change my ways
Said the same things yesterday
Don't know why I'm so afraid
To let you in
To let you win
To let you have all of me
Can't spend my whole life wastin'
Everything I know I've been given
'Cause you've made for so much more than
Sittin' on the side lines
I don't wanna look back and wonder
If good enough could've been better
Everyday's a day to start over
So, why am I waiting for tomorrow
Maybe today I'll start believing
That you're mercy is really
As real as you say it is
It doesn't matter who I used to be
It only matters that I've been set free
You rescued me you're changing me
Jesus take everything
Can't spend my whole life wastin'
Everything I know I've been given
'Cause you've made for so much more than
Sittin' on the side lines
I don't wanna look back and wonder
If good enough could've been better
Everyday's a day to start over
So, why am I waiting for tomorrow
Oh, I'm makin this my moment now
To grab the hand that's reachin down to save me You saved me
And I'm makin this my moment now
To grab the hand that's reachin down to save me You saved me
Can't spend my whole life wastin'
Everything I know I've been given
'Cause you've made for so much more than
Sittin' on the side lines
I don't wanna look back and wonder
If good enough could've been better
Everyday's a day to start over
So, why am I waiting for tomorrow
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